A teenager who went through the menopause when she was just 15 is now giving her mum advice on going through the same thing.
Ellie Waters, 19, from Kettering, Northants, went through the menopause in September 2017 after completing 18 months of chemotherapy and radiotherapy for a rare form of cancer – alveolar rhabdomyosarcoma.
The teen started experiencing hot flushes, difficulty sleeping, fatigue, low mood and itchy skin whilst she was studying for her a-levels and was shocked to discover these were the symptoms of premature menopause.
But Ellie is trying to look on the positive side, as she revealed her mum, Samantha Waters-Long, 46, hasn’t been through menopause yet but is being helped to know what signs to look out for thanks to tips from her daughter.
Mum Samantha has her very own ‘expert’ to help her through menopause when the time does come, as Ellie has released her own booklet detailing the symptoms and how she dealt with them.
Ellie, who is starting medical school this year, explained: ‘When I finished cancer treatment and did my own research, I realised that menopause was going to be a possibility.
‘When my periods didn’t return after treatment, I accepted it but because I was only young, I just thought that it meant no periods and that was fine by me.
‘Now I’m older, the realisation that I am completely infertile and will not be able to have children of my own has really sank in but I try to remain as positive as I can.
‘My mum hasn’t been through menopause but I’ve made her more aware so when she does go through it, she knows what the best treatment is and she’ll be able to come to me for advice which is quite cool.’
When Ellie was first diagnosed with cancer, she was just 14-years-old and sent into treatment straight away.
‘The cancer is a very rare form; only 60 kids in the UK get it every year and it’s very rare for it to appear in teenage girls,’ says Ellie.
‘I noticed the lump in December 2014 but didn’t go to the doctors until the following August and it was leg pain that pushed me to go.
‘The process in diagnosing the condition was fairly slow but when I first found out it was cancer, I was scared because I knew what cancer was and knew what the treatment entailed.
‘The entire experience was mentally and physically draining and had a big impact on my family.
‘I was pronounced clear of the cancer in March 2017 and since then, I’ve been trying to handle the menopause.’
Ellie and Samantha fought to get her medication changed after the side effects of menopause were affecting her day-to-day life.
Ellie explains: ‘In the beginning, I kept a lot of it to myself because I like to deal with things in private but when I opened up to my mum about how hard it was, she really tried to get me the support I needed and helped with getting me into a private doctors.
‘I was still in school and the side effects were really affecting my studying so I went on a much stronger medication which definitely eased the symptoms.
‘I have had a lot of time to accept it; it was difficult to open up and talk about because not a lot of people understand how bad the symptoms can be.’
Now, Ellie says that adoption is definitely something she would like to do in the future.
‘I was given a 20% chance of surviving cancer and I managed that, so I try to be grateful for what I have,’ she adds.
‘I have got the odd comment from school friends here and there who would say they wished they could be me because I never have to have a period again but they don’t understand the side effects.
‘I’m on oestrogen patches and hormone replacement therapy but I had to take a gap year to get the symptoms under control because I was really struggling in the beginning.’
Her mum, Samantha says she was absolutely terrified when she first heard Ellie’s cancer diagnosis from doctors.
‘I remember the doctors pulling me into a room and telling me my daughter had stage four cancer; I instantly assumed she was going to die because that’s the worst stage,’ says Samantha.
‘It was at that point that they told me she would most likely be infertile by the end of treatment but menopause was never mentioned.
‘I knew about some of the symptoms but not all of them; I didn’t realise the extremities it can get to.
‘She has said to me, it’s alright mum, I’m an expert now so when you go through it, you can come to me.’
She says the main tip Ellie has taught her is that it’s so important to get a second opinion and push for better treatment if you’re still suffering.
‘She shocked me with the severity of some of the symptoms,’ she adds. ‘She has helped women my age go through menopause and she’s only .
‘It’s amazing that she’s raising awareness and using her experience to help people because it really will make a difference.’
Ellie finished sixth form in March 2020 and received the grades needed to get into medical school at Keel University.
The teen decided to take a year out to focus on her health and work at a nursing home to get first hand patient experience.
‘I had to repeat a year at school and that was the best decision I’ve ever made because I was really behind,’ she says.
‘Going to medical school had never even crossed my mind until I was in hospital but I was in awe of my doctors and I knew I wanted to be like them and help people like me.
‘I’m on a much higher dosage of oestrogen now which has really helped to control my menopause symptoms. I work 60 hours a week so it was important for me to control them.
‘I love the fact that my mum will be able to come to me for advice in the future.’
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